Monday, March 31, 2008

My Love Language

My friend Denise did the love language test.
I thought it might be useful for me to do today.... considering my mood.
Here are my results
I feel loved when...

The Five Love Languages

My Primary Love Language is Acts of Service

My Detailed Results:
Acts of Service: 10
Quality Time: 9
Words of Affirmation: 5
Physical Touch: 4
Receiving Gifts: 2

About this quiz

Unhappiness in relationships is often due to the fact that we speak different love languages. It can be helpful to know what language you speak and what language those around you speak.

Tag 3 people so they can find out what their love language is.

Take the Quiz!
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In other news I found a CARPET of aphids on our rose bushes. I am so grossed out I doubt you can even imagine. I looked them up online, they call them plant lice. Again, more grossing out. But I put on my big girl panties and sprayed them off with a dishwasher soap/oil/water mixture and although I know I can't prevent them, hopefully the carpet will subside.

Breathe

I am SO overwhelmed by my life right now.
This morning the car needed gas (I try not to let it get below 1/2 a tank, but we were WELL below that). I was gonna stop on my way home from pick-up at the one on the way, but the fill-up tank was there, so I drove by (word on the street, you're not supposed to fill-up at a station that's having their tank filled because it stirs up all the debris in the tank).
Then, as I'm driving to the other station (which is out of the way, and beyond the LONGEST light in the history of all lights) my gas light goes on. I seriously think I'm going to have a panic attack. I mean, I know I'm on my WAY to get gas -- and yet I'm freaking out.
I know it's just a lot this week.
I know my life is not that hard.
However, my work schedule is changing and I'm having a hard time with the random-ness of it all.
My family shouldn't even get NEAR me.
Let's just say I'm snippy, and I am constantly of the frame of mind that I am pulling the ENTIRE wagon on my own, regardless of the fact that we are firmly yoked, and I know he's (and they) are helping out.
I just don't know what to do with myself.
And here's the cherry -- it's my day to teach ABC school, one of my LAST days to do it. I think we've been over how 4 year olds get my blood pressure increased.
Regardless, life goes on.
What do you guys do when life gets like this?

Saturday, March 29, 2008

Now, Isn't that Handi?

I heard about this great website: www.handipoints.com -- and my kids are already scheming with ways to be good so that they can get more points.
Premise is basically the same as with those pets things... oh, what are they called? Webkinz, that's it. Anyway, you input a chore/behavior chart for them. Then, each day they can fill-in the things they've done and get "points" to either use to "buy" things (I am fairly sure you don't actually "get" anything) or buy new clothes for their character, watch movies, play games. Kinda like you do with Webkinz (as far as I've heard).
Anyway, the kids absolutely adore it. This morning, Spencer made his guy into a fireman and watched a movie. Conner made his guy into an astronaunt and walked around his little city.
They also get these little stamp books where they can learn a little something too.
Anyway, it's been huge already and it might be a HUGE help this summer, when they have more time (to work on their little cat, and also to get in trouble).
Just thought I'd share. :)

Friday, March 28, 2008

I'm Still Alive

No, I didn't commit suicide by plugging my toaster back in and trying to use it.

That particular toaster is now set for the garbage (do you think I can recycle it?).

ANYWAY, Costco had a lovely model with a 10 dollar manufacture's discount on it, so I snatched it up. It's a little wider (it's a 4 slot) but I think it'll be better then what we had, and more safe (and yes, I can return it if I ever hate it).

We actually had a great day yesterday. I planned a little train trip for my friends and our kids. We rode the train (cal train is double-decker here) and had lunch. HUGE fun, huge. We all had a great time. I thought I'd even post a picture here for those of you who don't think I have friends in CA. Shocking, but I do know a few people off of the internet. Surprising, I know. :)

Went out to dinner tonight to Ihop (kids eat free on Friday nights) -- Conner's choice for a good report card last week. I am afraid I didn't each QUITE as consciously as I would've liked. I mean, I ate less then half -- but I was still VERY full. Good news, I lost about 6 pounds in 10 days. And while I in no-way expect that to continue, I was feelin' very, very fine.

Ok, one last thing. I did a photo shoot -- you can see it on my photography blog (gonna post pictures there as soon as I'm done with THIS entry). I think many of you think that I take good pictures because of my camera (I have more control over my photos because of my camera, that is true) -- but if you looked at these photos straight out of the camera, you can't even see the kid.... so thanks to lightroom I was able to salvadge them -- I thought I'd share one of the before and afters here. Can you guess which is which?


P.S. Shooting at noon-day sun isn't my favorite. But I have quickly learned you can fix bad lighting (sort of) but you can't fix an onry child (at least, not without the fruit loops showing up in the picture).

Thursday, March 27, 2008

When your morning starts THIS good....

Our toaster started on fire this morning.
That's right, not a little crumb smoking -- a full fledged, flames leaping out of the toaster kind of fire.
Of course, I saved my kitchenaid mixer (it's partner in crime on our counter) first and then I was like "HOW DO I PUT IT OUT -- do I safe the children?" Seriously, I've had too many fire safety classes at the hospital (Rescue, Activate, Contain, Extinguish). As for me, I filled up Drew's empty cup and poured water on it....
We were all saved.
YAY!!!!!
But, now I am left with the toaster, which Drew decided started on fire because I hadn't adequately cleaned the crumbs out of. I do empty it's little crumb tray every now and then, but perhaps I need to bang it on the garbage upside down.
And now, my tightwad tendencies are screaming at me -- SAVE THE TOASTER, you don't want to spend your entire household budget on a new one!!!
So, my question to you, my fine blog readers, do I save the toaster, do you think it's OK? Or, do I throw it away and make a trip to Costco?

So, if the day starts like THAT? Does it go up, or continue to spiral downwards? I await the answer with baited breathe.

Wednesday, March 26, 2008

Still slimming down....

I lost .4 pounds yesterday. I am noticing a larger weight loss when I DO work out, which is honestly the first time that has EVER happened.

It's a really nice feeling, and that's all I'm going to say. I'm always afraid I'll jinx myself!

In other news I got to the grocery store and realized I didn't have my wallet. It's only the one that's right by Conner's school, but it was still annoying. As I was driving away cursing myself, I thought that I was SO glad I didn't find that out in the store (I figured it out in the parking lot). Then, I was much happier.

Life is all about the attitude, isn't it?

Still hate that I have to go back tomorrow. :)

Tuesday, March 25, 2008

Me being thing... day something-or-other

Alright, did anyone else watch the Mr Thin thing on Sunday? He talks about dealing with your emotional eating through tapping.
I am sorry to say this, but I think it may actually work. I am actually not a huge emotional eater. I don't first thing of the fridge when I'm upset, stressed, etc -- although if I'm actually EATING at the time, sometimes I overdo it (and sometimes I lose my appetite). Anyway, I am hoping that this technique (which involves tapping on your sinus, your collar bone, and 2 different places on your hands, and then moving your eyes) will help when I feel overwhelmed with my anxiety in general, even if it doesn't involve eating. So far, I haven't been over my head since last night -- but I'll report back when I am. Last night I was really craving something salty though, and I did his tapping sequence, and after -- it was gone. It was gone the rest of the night too. Interesting....
I'm back to my recent low (recent being when Conner was born -- that's the last time I weighed this little). It's really exciting for me, especially since I'm not feeling deprived, per se (although sometimes it's VERY difficult for me to box the food up, or throw it away -- but I'm learning to let that part of me go). I am also realizing that I'm stronger then I thought I was. Sometimes I wouldn't eat things, like chips and dip because I didn't want to "open that dam" for fear that it'd collapse and I'd eat more then I thought was appropriate. However, I'm opening all those things, and I'm stopping. I'm stopping once I've enjoyed a little bit, and I realize that if I'm hungry later on and I want more -- it will be there. I think that's one of the best part about me being all thin.
That and the fact that if I stay at this weight (and hopefully below it) for the next 7 days I am rewarding myself with 50$. What should a girl do with 50$?

Monday, March 24, 2008

BBB

I bought a hot air popcorn popper a couple of weeks ago. I am in love with it. Up until now we've had a microwave one. The kernals got all over the microwave, it took a long time to make (our family eats a LOT of popcorn on Sunday evenings). Anyway, got a hot air one while my mom was here. Delighted by it.
Last night, it fell while I was trying to wrap the cord around it to put it away. It cracked.
WAHHHHHHH!!!! I was SO disappointed!
Good news?
I bought it at Bed Bath and Beyond... and guess who has an AMAZING return policy.
I didn't have the box.
I had broken it, it hadn't just died.
And yet -- they took it back.
I did, however, have my receipt.
And now I'll be keeping ALL my receipts from Bed Bath and Beyond. I'll also be buying more things there.
Yes, it is more expensive, but once you use a 20% off coupon, it's about the same.
And I think we're all aware that peace of mind, is priceless. :)

Day by Day

I was thinking to myself that I had a "free" week this week -- NOTHING to do, nothing planned-- just lots of room. And then, like a fool I filled it up. Photo shoot, visiting teaching, helping at school, all of the above. I mean, all good things, but things that take time.....

That Making you thin show was on last night, I DVR'd it, since anything that comes on after 9 pm is too late for me to watch (got-up at 5:50 this AM to work-out though). I briefly turned it on and it somehow involves tapping to help get over emotional eating. I'm not sure how that's gonna help me -- but I sojourn on.

I'm also really trying to eat what we have. I have converted to a pantry-type system where I stock-up on what's on sale, it goes-in the pantry and then we eat off of it. Of course, I still have to get some things at the grocery store, but so far it has been a money saver. Heavens knows I have a LOT of food here -- and this system should work well. I also try and take stock of what's in the fridge and use it a little better so we don't waste.

Andway, there's my mind-numbing blog entry for the day. Just trying to sludge through it all.
Go peeps.

Sunday, March 23, 2008

So, this is our Easter






After seeing all my friends amazing Easter Photos, I just couldn't stop myself from editing mine. And yes -- I even included a photo of myself, skin isn't quite as good as last time though (so no close-up).
I taught Relief Society today. Of course, eveyone realized how much I struggle with my life, and I found that one of our classmembers wasn't down with how realistic I am with my life. I'm not going to say that it's easy for me to serve strangers, it's something I work on. Although, unlike many of them I am put in a situation every time I go to work -- to serve them. So, it's nice I get to work on it so frequently. Anyway, my lesson was on Joseph B Worthlin's "The Great Commandment". I mostly asked people to step outside themself and stretch themselves. Whether that's serving their family, their friends or strangers -- to find a new way to serve those around us.
We watched the "Believing in Christ" movie (I think the church sent it out a couple years ago at Easter). I was so touched by how Jesus served all people, and so willingly. I am grateful for the example he set for us, and those that wrote it down so we could remember it.
Anyway, that's what Easter is all about. Love, service and believing in Christ. Oh, and jellybeans -- but those are pretty low on the list. Happy Easter!

SAVED

So, I had a bad Easter surprise this morning. I had thought that I left these photos on my camera when I had put them on the computer. Turns-out I'd formatted the card and then we had our computer debacle. SO, when I went to take today's photos (which will hopefully be edited sometimes this week, and be available for public consumption), I realize the card has nothing on it. I was REALLY sad, until I realized I could most likely recover them from my card (I got some free software to do this when I bought the camera). I was really sad at the thought of not having my profile picture available for printing full-sized.
ANYWAY, so they are all saved. I had to re-edit them, but thanks to my handy-dandy Lightroom software, I got through that pretty quickly, and it's all done.
In other news, I have done pretty well on eating consciously this weekend. I'm almost back to where I was before my mommy came (I realize I shouldn't act like she made me gain weight -- it was only a few pounds and we love to go out to eat while she's here, what can I say?). Anyway, last night I actually had the feeling of being "full" but not "SO FULL" and although we ate cheese fries (pretty-much my favorite thing in the world) because I listened to myself, I was still able to lose about 1# yesterday.
Go conscious eating (another episode of the show is airing tonight).

Friday, March 21, 2008

The Highest Regard

My friend Shannon just updated her blog and her photography site.
Shannon is also a San Jose based photographer. We both sorta stepped into photography around the same time, but she is expanding her business, and getting pretty busy as of late.
She is AMAZING.
She also has a per-print pricing (unlike my full CD pricing) which might appeal to some of you that only want a picture or two.
Plus, her site is delicious eye candy.
Enjoy.
www.shannonmontez.com

Me, 0.2 pounds heavier. :)

Not that I'm disappointed. In my head, I figure any day that I don't gain much is a day to be happy about.
I even went out to lunch yesterday, and I really tried to eat consciously. I think I suceeded, all in all.
Easter is SO DANG EARLY THIS YEAR? Can't they fix that?
{sigh}
Just got back from Walgreens, doing a little shopping (thanks to my 10 dollar gift card). I'm thinking the Easter bunny is in the mood for a treasure egg hunt this year. I want to mix it up a bit. We'll probably still do the traditional hunt (sadly, on Sunday, becuase SOMEONE like a FOOL scheduled herself to work tomorrow)... but I'll make it work.
Of course, my mom bought the boys ADORABLE easter outfits (matchy-matchy, which is fairly rare around here), and I can't WAIT to take pictures of them on Sunday AM.
In other news, Drew's concert (one of two, the other's tonight) was last nght. He SANG in it, and GUESS who he dedicated it to. Moi.
Just one of the VERY FINE benefits to having a music teacher for a husband.
One of the lesser benefits of being me is NOT liking people looking at me or getting attention like that. But I'm working throught that kind of madness. Along with all my other issues.... like not knowing when I'm full
{big sigh}.

Thursday, March 20, 2008

Me being thin, day 3

This morning was Conner's "Mornings with Moms" day at school. We go to school early, and all have breakfast together. I was a little nervous about how this would go with my new program, apparently with good reason. It's so noisy, I'm dealing with 2 kids by myself and trying to meet other moms, not to mention enjoying their full-fat cream cheese (yum).
BTW, I love this program. I met a lot of Conner's friends moms, which is nice. I don't always put myself out there when I'm dropping off and picking up, but I tried to this AM. Always nice to know the friends moms. Our school has a local company donate the bagels and fruit (and we give them LOTS of thanks in the PTA newsletter). Anyway, it's a great idea to try in your own schools.
Anyway, I ended-up just taking a very small portion. I ate 1/4 of a bagel with a bit of cream cheese, and a little tangerine. I tried to keep checking to see if I was full but I noticed I couldn't stay on top of myself like I normally would.
Yeterday I had cheese crisp for lunch (a complete FAVORITE of mine -- and SO not great for you, but I figured I needed to try the whole program, and that WAS what I wanted to eat). I ended-up only eating about 3/4 of a small tortilla of it, and i decided i was done. I needed a little snack (popcorn) later on but I felt like I did pretty good about deciding when to be done, etc.
Anyway, this seems to be SO much about listening to your body. Am I actually hungry, or am I bored? Maybe let's try a drink of water.... Frankly, I don't really listen to my body. I think before now I've been eating either to:

  1. Eat til' my plate was clean
  2. Eat til' I was tired of it
Neither of which are what my body really needs.
I still haven't had a light come on and say to myself "I'm full." But, I'm working on it. :) I did lose 0.8 pounds yesterday. Again, I still think it's from going back to regular eating. I'm actually not down to where I was before my mom came. I am obviously an awful eater-outer (and I'm going out to lunch today, so we'll see).

Wednesday, March 19, 2008

Scrapbook that

You know, the beauty of being so far behind on your scrapbooking is kind of seeing the whole picture. These particular ones are from August. I don't think that I would've felt the same way about that trip if I'd scrapbooked them right after the trip, as I do when I do them now. I'm not sure if that's good or not, but it's how it is. Drew and I were just able to see so clearly on our overnight adventure to Montara. Usually when we go on date night we're very caught-up in what's going on at home, and how we can fix it, that we don't get around to the bigger picture before our sitter time is up. Anyway, that's what the pictures meant to me today.
And yes, I'm scrapbooking. I'm vowing to do it more often and to get caught-up. It's an important hobby to me, and even though I have no desire to be published anymore or really to even go to 2P's (although I did go see a bit of eye candy there today) I do enjoy it.

Me being thin, day 2

Well, I don't think it has much to do with me wondering if I'm "full" or "hungry" all day long -- but I dropped just over 2 pounds since Monday (I didn't weigh myself yesterday -- I do usually weigh myself daily, it's actually good to see what things I do or eat that have effects -- I'm completely aware not to get down on myself for a 2 pound gain that might just be that time of the month or whatnot). So, I'm also aware this 2 pound loss could just be from not eating out now that my mom's gone, etc.
Anyway, we ate last night at enrichment, and I made sure to share my slow eating with everyone at the table. They all looked at me like I was insane that I have no clue when I'm full... of course, everyone else at the table is skinny and cute {sigh}. Anyway, I did really well. I made sure not to put too large a portion on my plate, and I did end-up eating all of it (I was checking between each slow bite to see if I felt full), and I still wasn't full -- so I was able to have dessert. I only got a little, and 1/2 way through that I suddenly felt like it was time to be done. So I was. I stared at that blob of chocolate triffle on my plate the rest of the evening, but I didn't eat it.
So, for breakfast I had about 3/4 of my bowl of cereal (which wasn't as large as the bowl of cereal I ususally pour). I think I'm full.
Frankly, I have no clue.

Tuesday, March 18, 2008

Step Outside Yourself

Tonight was our Ward's Relief Society birthday party and it was really great. First, we had amazing food and we had great speakers from local organizations that need volunteers.
First off was the health trust, which I already knew a little bit about from working where I do.
Second was an amazing organization called Project Baobab. They teach young women in Kenya life-sustaining skills, including how to run their own business. Then, they give grants to several of the women who attend the classes of 100$ to help them start their own business.
I was touched by this organization, and I donated a very meager donation just now (you can do it online, through paypal or with a credit card). The thing I learned most from these people is that a small donation can make a big difference. If 10 of my blog readers made my same donation, we could start an entire business in Kenya. We can do that for someone. Isn't that amazing?
However, I think the most exciting thing is realizing all that good that happens in the community. Thankfully, I do see a LOT of it working in the hospital, and I am constantly reminded how lucky I am and how much I can do for both my patients and those around me.
So, my challenge to you -- my blog readers -- is to find an organization you're passionate about. Give to them. Give them time, give them money, give them your prayers. The key is finding what you can give. I know that sometimes prayers are all I can offer. I know that other times I can give much, much more.
I think that sometimes our particular church gets VERY caught-up in serving our own. I mean, we do that amazingly -- but we need to remember that Jesus served everyone. Anyway, I was touched by the meeting. Thanks to the people who helped put it on.

He's Gonna Make Me Thin

Who's watched the TLC show "I Can Make You Thin" He has 4 golden rules (which is mostly what Sunday's show was on)
1. Eat when you're hungry.
2. Eat what you want.
3. Eat consciously.
4. Stop when you are full.

So, I agree with a lot of what he's said. I don't agree with not eating vegetables because you don't like them (pick ones you do like, I'm fine with that -- but I think you do need an adequate amount of fiber, vitamins, etc).
I'm starting to try this today. This morning I ate about 3/4 of my granola bar and I wasn't hungry any more, although I'm not exactly sure where the "full" line is for myself... kwim?
Same problem with lunch --I ate about 1/2 of the salad and then I thought I wasn't particularly hungry anymore, so I put it away, I can always get it out again later, I kept reminding myself.
I have a few points I've learned already:
  • I don't know when I'm full. I'm not sure how I'm gonna know. I know when I'm STUFFED, but I'm not sure I know when I'm full
  • I worry about my kids not knowing when they're full, and how do I share that with them (so they don't lose that "trigger" like I apparently have)
  • I like that I should eat WHAT I want, when I want. My mom bought the kids sugar cookies while she was here, and I've been lusting after them for the longest time -- not eating them because I was sure it wouldn't be good for me. But now it's on my list of things I'm gonna eat next. Most likely I'll need a snack in a bit since I've now had about 10 bites of salad (leftover cheesecake factory BBQ chicken ranch salad) and 3/4 of a Fiber 1 bar so far (I'm guessing that is about 300 calories so far). Anyway, I'm just gonna consciously think about when I'm actually hungry (he recommends drinking a glass of water before you have a snack because oftentimes hunger is actually dehydration).

Have you guys watched the show? Do you have thoughts on what I've learned so far. I'm hoping to write about this on each day of my journey.

She's Leaving Me

My mom's leaving today.
I'm sure you've figured out why there were so few blog posts as of late. :)
It's been a great visit.
I've made some jewlery, I've gotten some new clothes (happy birthday to me in 2 months), and a hot air popcorn popper.
I've pawned my children off on her -- but only a couple of times.
Honestly, mothers are the main gift God gives us, fathers too (obviously -- since this discussion could easily shift to taxes which I ALWAYS talk to my dad about).
Sometimes I see those animials on the discovery channel where there mother has nothing to do with them after they're born, they simply swim away.
Anyway, I'm glad she didn't swim away and my children absolutely think she is the sun and the moon and the stars. What a blessing.

Sunday, March 16, 2008

News from Headquarters

Today we had an announcement from Salt Lake about using our finances wisely. They pointed out that we shouldn't put all of our eggs in one basket (that would be the boiled-down version). Interesting that my mom said there's been a LOT of problems with scams in which members of the church lose their lives savings.
Sad that church members would do this to each others.
Sad anyone would do that.
I am so thankful for the guidance that the church provides. I mean, not placing all your eggs in one basket, not going into debt -- those are huge concepts, and yet they're simple ones. Ones that if you live by you can avoid a world of hurt.
God has always said it's the small things that you do that will bring you eternal happiness. Sometimes I think it's the big things I do -- life changing moments that I might have a part in, but I am slowly realizing that it's not.
The little things, the choices we make, I think that's where the "big deal" lies.
P.S. Did anyone get the announcement in church that those who were born during President Hinckley's administration were not generals in the war in heaven? I was hoping we'd hear about that from the bishop, but this advice was much more usable. :)

Saturday, March 15, 2008

A Percent Reminder

This morning I called our home equity line bank and I had them lower the percentage rate. I hadn't done it before now (and I am now kicking myself) because we're going to refinance soon so I figured we'd have to pay something, or whatnot.
Turns out -- that call saved us over 100 dollars/month. True, if they raise the interest rates (and they most likely will not) we can lock back in. The guy on the phone said I had 7 more times (we've done it twice so you must have 10 total times to fiddle with the interest rate) of changing the rate before they'd charge me.
I know most of my readers don't have home equity lines (at least not yet) but if you have credit cards, and their rates haven't changed -- call them, see what they can do.
Worst case scenario, they say no -- or you find-out the fees, etc. aren't worth it.

Thursday, March 13, 2008

Growing

Isn't it a triumphant feeling to have the little seedlings poke their heads up through the soil?
So far we have turnups, spinach and peas -- and one corn. It gives me so much hope when I see that.
Life is an amazing thing.

Wednesday, March 12, 2008

8th percentile

Yesterday was Spencer's 4 year old check-up. I went into this day with a large amount of trepidation, but thankfully my mom's here and Spencer has seen her give herself a shot a few times, and I think that helped.
ANYWAY, he went to the doctor OK, but once it was time to look in his ears, etc. he freaked out. Who knew he was so protective of his holes. :) All looked-out fine but he only weighs 30 pounds -- putting him in the 8th percentile for weight. He's right around the 50th for height and THANKFULLY we've hit 40 inches so we'll be able to go on most of the rides at Disneyland!!!That's right, in one year he's gained just over a pound. I really thought he'd be around 32, but no such luck. Oh well, at least he can officially sit in a booster seat. :)
Then it was time for shots. Kaiser as this ludicrous system where you walk over tot he immunization clinic. And put your paper in. We hauled ourselves over there very quickly because I knew from experience what kind of a back-up there would be. Y0u see, they schedule all their well-checks at either noon or first thing in the morning... and of course many of those kids need shots. And they all sit there and wait as ONE nurse tries to get through the 20 kids. There may have been 2 nurses, but it's insane. Luckily, with my forethought we were #2 in line (we still waited 20 minutes). But we read the free book that Kaiser gave us (a Courderoy one, we love Courderoy -- that was def. the highlight of Spencer's visit to Dr. Copeland) and then we went to the bathroom and checked out the pharmacy. Finally we were called and Spencer, even with a few tears, did a GREAT job. With the obligatory big bag of M&M's afterwards he was sufficiently happy. We made sure to move our arms a lot and he even got his beloved tylenol to help his arms feel better.
So, we're over that hurdle and I am very happy about it. A tiny TB test next year, but other then that the little guy's ready for Kindergarten. Go him. :)
ETA: Just registered a complaint with Kaiser. You know me, little miss Shrinking Violet. :)

Monday, March 10, 2008

The Role of Women

I just finished watching Mona Lisa Smile. I know, I am SO behind, but it's a movie I'd always wanted to see and I think I was stuck in a post-partum trench at the time, but I did remember to put it on my blockbuster list.
Anyway, I loved it. I loved to watch the fencepost that we walk each day as a woman. The intellectual individual versus the wife and mother. It seems like we always feel like we need to put our peg in one specific hole. I loved how this movie showed you how one part of you can be on each side of the fence -- putting your whole self into each activity but sharing at the same time.
Another thing I'd wanted to talk about was the Governor caught-up in the prostitution scandal, Elliot Spitzer. My heart bleeds for his wife. Not that she was lied to, not that she has scum for a husband/help-meet/provider. The fact that he felt she was a pony to be trotted out to remind his constituents that all was well -- that she trusted him, so we all could too. The fact that she felt she could stuff every ounce of pride she had into her stiff jacket and stand next to him as he told us he spent over 4k on sex with a prostitute.
The fact that we think that's OK.
It's not OK.
IT
IS
NOT
OK.
I feel that his is a larger louse for making her do that. He should at least love her, and her pride enough to say honey -- regardless of the STD that may be growing within your loins this very instant, this is one press conference you can watch from home (most likely bawling your eyes out). Whatever happens between them is between them, but I know that there are many press conferences she has not attended. I hope the press lights into him for this. She should not have been there. She is his most private and precious posession. Obviously, that's not how he feels, but he should.
And this brought my thoughts back to the movie. What inside her made her feel that she needed to go? Who could've been a better role model, a better friend, a better confident to say no -- regardless of the ring on your finger you can show your individual worth. Show that you're not OK with it, by simply staying home.
Instead she probably had someone like Kirsten's Dundst's mother in the movie -- that she should paste on a smile and act like everything's OK. I hope I'm never that role in anyone's life.
I just thought her standing there was so sad. I wish her well. I hope she can unfurl her pride and stand proud someday. Good luck to her.

To Much to Do

Did I ever mention that Drew got me a palm pilot for Christmas. After hours of merciless taunting since a charge from "Fry's" showed-up on our Christmas credit card bill (and I SAID nothing from Fry's please -- I want a girl's gift), I was wondering what it could be (and if it was a video game I knew I'd demand a divorce).
But, it wasn't -- it was the Palm Z22.
And ladies, I love it. I've put in ALL my to-do lists into it. It has our calenders in it (and since Drew also has a palm we sync once a week so we've both got each other's stuff in it). There are some chores that I've been wanting to do either monthly or every other week but I hadn't quite gotten a system down to make that work -- but with this I can schedule them to come-up on my "To do" list that way, an it's been a HUGE help.
Drew is very pleased with himself and the fact that I eat crow every time I caress my little Z22 lovingly.
Oh well -- even this makes Crow taste OK.

Saturday, March 08, 2008

A Proud Mamma Moment

Today was the Young Author's Faire.

Conner was picked to share his informational piece at it. The school we chose for Conner, highly favors writing and he has really thrived in this environment, so I was very excited for him.

He was able to get-up and share his piece with some peers in his age group from his and another school.

He used a nice, loud voice. His piece was interesting, and he used inflection.

I was so proud. It's amazing as a child grows-up and shares a bit of himself with the world how you are just on pins and needles as a parent.

He did it, and he did a great job.

We went to Hobee's for breakfast.

Go Conner.

Thursday, March 06, 2008

You are Reading a Working Woman

I worked today. I worked day shift today.
I'm just not meant to work during the week. Sad news, I'm gonna have to for the foreseeable future. Actually, working day shift will be desire able once Spencer gets into school, but until then.... Well, let's just say I'm TIRED.
I do the entire shift (and let's not pretend that nursing is light work --I'm on my feet the whole shift), I come home -- I clean, I make dinner, I get kids in bed. Drew stayed home sick today, so of course that all fell on me.
{sigh}
I'm just ornery and tired.
Good thing my mom's coming.
However, I do feel good being amongst my peers. It's nice to play adult.
A friend of mine had someone say "I feel so sorry for moms that work outside the home, I couldn't stand the guilt" -- my friend works twice a month.... I think those kinds of comments are about as bad as they come, but it is a tough job. And one that many women pull-off with a great deal of finese...
I'm thankful I don't have to do it.
Much.

Wednesday, March 05, 2008

Friends

I've recently linked up with a few very old friends via facebook and me stalking them through the BYU alumni page.
Honestly, it's hard to remember who I was when I knew these people. I was a very different person as a freshman in college then I am today.
Or was I?
I was still very funny.
That's true. :)
I was much skinnier....
Sadly also true.
The funny question -- if I met them today would I still be friends with them?
Have you ever hooked-up with an old friend, only to realize that you have absolutely nothing in common anymore?
I must admit I have.
Thankfully most of my old friends also have kids so we can always talk about that.
I was then also thinking (my conditioner needs 3 minutes on in the shower -- I had some nice thinking time) about how we are given the friends that we need at certain times in our lives, and how lucky I have been. I was wondering if my kids will be given the same opportunities. I must admit that my main friend source in high school was band -- and my AP classes (loser, I'm fully aware). However, if you get your kids in band, you are almost assured of a good, healthy friend base for them. It's just like magic and it happens not only in Utah, but also Idaho and California -- we have proof. :)
Anyway, there's my ramble for the day. Conner's home sick today (yikes) so I'm the well one now administering to the needs of the ill.
Lucky, lucky me.
***ETA: I should say that music in general gives your kids a good friend base. I think band tends to give them a bit more of an edge, because those kids are together SO MUCH during marching band season (and then that feeling just continues all year long) but music in general is a great friend-starter.

Tuesday, March 04, 2008

Re-cap

Today I have called in sick to my life. It's just a cold. Both kids have had it (and frankly, neither one had a "sick" day -- they were both running around the whole time), so I knew it was just a matter of time, considering how often I'm sneezed on, etc. Anyway, it's completely survivable, but I know I need a down day to get over it before I work, and my mommy comes (!). So, my big plan today is to lay around, read "Siblings Without Rivalry" (DESPERATELY need to do that, the kids are driving me insane, and I need a re-read of this book), and generally just feel the weight of my illness. :)

Last night we had the missionaries over for dinner, and while our Rhodes Rolls didn't rise at all (is it only me that they never rise on? I had them out like 6 hours -- not an inch) we had a nice FHE lesson. It was based on Elder Ballard's talk about sharing facts about our church.
I started out with some of the myths of our church:
1. We have horns. (yes, it's true -- there are people out there that believe this about Mormons)
2. We practice polygamy (having more then one wife)
3. There are Mormons only in Utah.
4. We don’t believe in Jesus
5. We don’t believe in the Bible
All of these are completely false -- fyi. :)

We then went through some of the facts that Elder Ballard mentions in his talk:

Facts about the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints
1. “Mormon” is only our church’s nickname, our real name is the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints
2. The church was started by Joseph Smith in New York, but is now headquartered in Utah and lead by President Thomas S Monson.
3. We have over 13 million members in 176 countries. We have 6 million members in the US, making us the 4th largest church in the US.
4. Our congregations (wards) are led by volunteer clergy (bishop). Women also serve in assigned leadership in the church

Information on the Faith of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints
1.We believe that our soul will live forever, and we can live with God again.
2. We accept Jesus Christ as our savior, and follow his teachings.
3. We believe we have restored the church that Jesus established on earth. We have a prophet who Jesus & Heavenly Father use to lead us today.
4. We use the bible alongside the Book of Mormon. The Book of Mormon is another testament of Jesus Christ.

Information on the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints and their families
1. We are an extremely family-centered church. We emphasize the importance of families in all aspects of our lives, and we no longer practice polygamy.
2. Families attend Sacrament meeting (worship services) together.
3. We hold Family Home Evening once a week, where our family learns values, and has fun together.
4. There are programs in the church to help youth and children.
5. Genealogy is very important to us, giving us a stronger sense of where we came from and how we belong.

Some Fruits of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints
1. Mormons are healthier and live longer then the national average.
2. Mormons who attend the temple regularly have a lower divorce rate then the national average
3. We have a higher educational level then the national average.
4. We place strong emphasis on being self reliant and working hard. The church donates a lot of time, money and goods to humanitarian causes around the world.

After that we went through some questions we might be asked (my answers are in italics, but we took turns answering last night -- it was good to have the missionaries there for this part):
1. Does your dad have more then one wife? FYI, our church stopped the practice of Polygamy over 100 years ago -- in 1890. Those who are found to be practicing polygamy now are immediately excommunicated (aka, kicked out of the church). Period.
2. Do you worship Joseph Smith? Joseph Smith was the founder of our church. We think he's a pretty great man, but he's just a man -- like many men in our church who serve the church willingly.
3. Do you drink soda? Mormons don't drink Coffee, non-herbal tea (I believe it's green and black tea that we don't drink -- sometimes I'll have orange tea, or raspberry tea when I'm sick), wine or other "spirits". Mostly we stay away from things that are addicting. Some people feel fine drinking caffinated sodas, but the church has counseled that if it becomes something which consumes our life, that we can't live without -- we should stop. I think that's just good advice. So yes, we drink soda.
4. Do you ever read the bible? The Book of Mormon is "another" testament of Jesus Christ. They stand side by side and we study both. We, in fact, have 2 years devoted to the bible in Seminary (high school scripture study), and only 1 year to the Book of Mormon. I am completely inept at both -- but it's not from a lack of trying. :)
5. No one else is a Mormon, that’s a weird religion. I don't think we get this type of response as much anymore but there are plenty of people in powerful positions in society who are LDS. Look around, you'll be surprised.
6. Three hours of church is so long what do you do there? We have one hour where the entire family worships together. Members of the congregation give talks during this time, that help us become better people. Then, we split into Sunday School for one hour (organized by age group and adults meet together), and then the men and women split-up further during the 3rd hour to focus on ways to better help us in our roles as men and women.
7. Your dad must be paid pretty well if he’s in the bishopric. My dad has been both a bishop and a stake president. He was never paid, and every hour donated to the church is done voluntarily. It's amazing when you think about it.
8. Isn’t it hard not to drink coffee? Not for me -- I hate the way it smells, but it's just something we go without. Most people I know who have quit to join the church don't view it as a problem a few months down the road.
9. Can you come to my party on Monday night? On Monday nights our family has family home evening. It's devoted to sharing values, fun and of course, a treat. So, no -- I can't. :)
10. Do you worship Thomas S. Monson? He is the prophet of our church, and much like Joseph Smith (who was also a prophet when he was alive) he is a great man. There are many attributes of his that I would like to be like -- but worship, no.

I really loved this talk when it was given. There are so many misconceptions about our church out there, and I strongly believe it's our job to at least clear those things up. So often at work people find-out that I'm LDS and they say "but you're so normal." And that's what I want people to realize. We're normal people. We're the soccer mom next to you, we're in the PTA, we're making stuff for the bake sale. We're good people, with the same goals as you. No, we don't drink, we don't have premarital sex (hopefully), we have larger families (myself not being a great example of that one) and we spend a lot of time doing church stuff.... but in reality, I think that's how many people would like to be. Anyway, it was a good lesson for our family, as I'd like Conner to have a few answers already in his head about questions he might be asked.

Monday, March 03, 2008

Deal of the Day!

So, Walgreens is having a sale where if you buy 6 products (priced 6/20$) you get 12 dollars back in their register rewards (which can be used like cash on your next purchase -- however, they do expire, so you just need to make sure you use them, or convert them to a gift card before they expire).
You can find out more about it here:
http://www.moneysavingmom.com/2008/03/walgreens-deals-for-week-of-march-2.html
This is what I did:
Bought 2 aussie products (coupon for 2$ off 2 in this Sunday's paper)
Bought 3 Oil of olay ribbons body wash (had a couple coupons for those as well)
Bought 2 pantene product (also had a coupon for that).
Total: 13.XX and I got 12 dollars back in register rewards.
Just make sure you actually GET the rewards after you've checked out (they don't come-out til' you pay) and that you use them before the expiration. FYI, you can't roll the rewards over and do the deal again -- the new register rewards won't print. Aka, I couldn't have gone back and done it again and paid with my 12 dollars of register rewards.
Anyway, if you have questions feel free to email me.

Saturday, March 01, 2008

A Drip and a Drop

I've been in charge of finishing up the drip system. OMG, I think it's worse then digging the trenches. I can't even feel my fingertips. I thought I had most of it done yesterday, and then we planted today (seedlings are waiting to sprout before they go in) but then today I wanted to make some variations, and well -- I'm sure you can guess who my OCD came into play. Just wanting everything perfect. We have a combination of drippers (1/2 gph and 1), soaker hose and some sprayers (mostly just in pots). Really, it's all just great now that it's in -- but while I was adjusting..........
However, I am slowly learning that gardening's not a perfect science, and I need to get over myself. :)
Anyway, the drip system is DEVINE, I'd take a picture except I think it'd hurt my fingertip too much (yes, it is just that bad -- even typing this is moderately painful). Everyone please come and admire. :)
Can't wait to just bring in the buckets of produce that I'll be growing.
RIGHT?

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