Walk the Walk

My doctor recommended I try walking. I haven’t been much into walking since my feet started hurting so much (arch issues) but now I have that pretty well under control. I’ve also wanted Conner to understand trust, so Drew and I went out on a walk this AM. It was just around our block and we both had our cell phones and he had the number. Two observations:

1. Morning walks are invigorating. I don’t usually have the time, and Drew’s usually already at work so it won’t happen often, but perhaps on Saturdays we could start trying it out. We were able to talk some things out, it was almost like being on a date, but without the fat of cheese fries (yummmm, cheese fries!).

2. Conner felt a lot of responsibility while we were gone. They got their jobs done and all that jazz while he was in charge. Honestly, it was just what I needed him to have. I want him to know I trust him, and I know he will do the right thing. I need to give him opportunities to do that. I called him 10 minutes into it and he made an accounting on how they were doing, I was impressed.

So, would you leave your 8 year old at home while you were just down the block? Frankly, as hard as I’ve been napping lately, I was probably more available down the block then I was on the couch. :)

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  1. says

    I had to go pick up Chloe at a birthday party that was 5 minutes away. Sophie was napping, so I left Bria in charge. She was very nervous, and I ended up being gone longer than I anticipated (had to pick up our next door neighbor girl, too, and she lost her shoes), but she did great. I need to do it more often, I think.

  2. says

    I think it’s necessary to give your kids age-appropriate, controlled opportunities to show that they can handle being on their own.

    Trust is kind of like faith. It requires action. Just saying you trust someone is not really trusting them.

    It is a lot easier nowadays to offer these opportunities to our kids because we have cell phones. We know that they can call if something happens or if they have a question.

    Kids that get these opportunities early on (age 8) will be more responsible. My prediction (I say prediction because I don’t have teenagers yet)is that if they are allowed these opportunities to show responsibility, they will be less likely to rebel and freak out when they turn 13.

    They will know that you trust them, value their opinion and their way of doing things. They will have the confidence in themselves to be their own person and not be swayed by peer pressure. Because they have gotten the message at home (safe place) that they are good enough and smart enough to make their own decisions and choose the right without someone hounding them every second.

    I know that’s a long response but I feel very passionate about this subject! And I feel proud knowing that so far, this approach is turning out some pretty good kids.

    Good job cutting a few of those strings! I absolutely love how excited he was to show you that he is responsible.

  3. says

    I can’t wait to leave Dallin home for a few minutes…he’s so responsible as it is that I’m tempted often even now! I liked your friend, Amy’s comment that trust is a lot like faith. I think that makes a lot of sense. Way to instill go!

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