Yesterday Conner had a playdate. Now, honestly I’m not a super fun mom. My children rarely have playdates with “their” friends — I do a fair amount of babysitting as trades for friends but those kids aren’t really one child’s friend or another’s so it’s a rarity that “their” friend will come over. Does that make sense?
Well ,this particular friend wasn’t in for letting Spencer play with and Conner quickly realized that and went along. Finally, just to keep the peace, Drew took Spencer in and played our fake wii with him in our bedroom. Apparently, Spencer beat Drew in golf. Anyway, how do you deal with it when your kids have friends over? I’m trying to be that cool mom a bit more this summer and it’s easier since I’m friends with a few of their moms on facebook… but I was baffled on how to do it (in honestly, I was a girl and my brother was a boy and we had VERY separate friends and things we wanted to do, so I don’t particularly remember this being an issue at our house). I get how he might not want to include him, but I knew that the way they were treating him was OK either. I was hoping for suggestions….
At work the other day we had a Jehovah’s Witness patient. Our anesthesiologist kept going on and ON about how STUPID she was for not wanting blood. Finally, I couldn’t take it anymore. I rationally explained that some people have beliefs which are rooted in them even further than all of her medical knowledge and how this patient literally believes she will go to hell if she gets blood so SHUT IT. I asked the doctor if there were things she would rather die doing than go to hell — I’m pretty sure she’s atheist because she basically just said I was stupid. But, I do believe that religion in most forms is good and we need to stand-up for people who have beliefs, even if we don’t agree with them. Now, I once had a patient who didn‘t say she had a religion (we ask as part of our intake) but she did say she didn’t want to get blood because her family was JW’s. I did question her on if she was willing to die for something she didn’t even accept as her own. I found that a little weird.
BUT, the whole day was just a reminder that we need to support the people around us on what is good. Learning to have empathy for those around us is one of the most important things we can learn. I hope to work on instilling it in my kids.