I’m a party girl. I am not a huge fan of parties at my house, but I tolerate them. I wish my house was bigger, mostly my kitchen — it’s just so small…. I do enjoy girls night, mostly at restaurants.
So, I send a lot of evites and it never fails to surprise me.
That’s right, who does/doesn’t RSVP. Especially on evite — it’s so easy, it even sends you reminders and you still don’t respond.
Now, most of my stuff is pretty casual. I don’t really need a firm head count, although it’s embarassing to head to a restaurant and give them a count of 10 and only have 5 or so come. I feel like I’m cheating the restaurant.
I have found that almost 90% of the time the “maybes” are no (esp. if they’re still maybes a day or two before the event). I’ve stopped counting the maybe’s. Just to save myself the guilt from the restaurant. I get keeping it lose up til’ the event, but the day before you should have a pretty good idea what’s going to happen.
This isn’t to say that things don’t come-up. Kids get sick, you get sick — that’s totally normal. I’m always so touched when someone actually calls me to say they RSVP’d yes but they can’t becuase of one of the above reasons.
Maybe that’s what it is. You just want to be aknowledged. You just want to know they got it and they’re happy to be included.
Maybe I just want coffee cake…
Either way, why don’t you RSVP? Do you think that manners are a lost art? Do you think I should stop inviting people places? Would you, as a party thrower, stop inviting people who don’t RSVP or keep themselves in the maybe category all the time?