OK, so now I’m losing all my friends (can you see Drew’s eye roll here, yes– I have a lot of friends, and I’m sure that my friends that STILL live by me are crying their little eyes out, but when two of your very best leave you in such a short time span you tend to get introspective and narcissistic….).
HOW do you make new friends?
WHO do you make new friends with?
Are there friend bars I can go to?
Well, the real issue is that I like being friends with people who are in a similar life situation to me. That means moms of older school aged kids.
This, is a problem.
As most of the women at church have preschool or babies. I like them all a lot, but it’s hard to talk about baby stuff when you’re really worried that your 10 year old is turning into a mess. Organic diaper cream just seems to matter less… Of course, I have a baby… but I guess when your kids grow you realize that the little problems are just that, little. I’m sure when I have a high schooler I will look back to the year of a thousand jackets and have a nice laugh and I visit my son in jail. OK, he won’t be in jail, but I’m sure you get the picture.
BUT, I also need to get over this. A lot of times they have a viewpoint that can make me realize my kids really are great and to stop stressing. We can help each other. Plus, I have a baby. I can fit in. Even if I’m not a size 4… right? I also worry they think I’m old. I like a lot of them a lot, but I just think in my head that I’m too old to hang with them. I am fired. I should call one of them right now.
I’m sure some of you are saying, “why just church?” Well, yeah Hilary, why just church? For a few reasons it’s sometimes easier for me to be friends with people who are Mormon, then people who aren’t. That isn’t to say that I don’t have some great non-Mormon friends, but a lot of things take “translating”.
I do think this is something I need to get over. Woman I’m “attracted to” (and please don’t take that the wrong way — but we all know what I mean, sometimes you meet a lady, and you realize that you want to be her new BFF) tend to have a religious foundation, even if it’s not the same as mine. I think that people who find religion important will understand how important it is to me.
I’m hoping to branch out at school a bit more this year. I have often kept a lot of those relationships somewhat superficial, but there’s no need. For, if I want friends with school aged kids, I should look no further then my kids classrooms.
Work is also a great place for friends. Again, they’re spread out around the valley, blah-blah-blah… Frankly, the problem’s me. I need to reach out. I’m sure they love me. Don’t you think?
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