Tuesday, June 14, 2011

It's not Me, It's You.

Lately I've been having to turn some people down.  I didn't think our realtor was making our interests his #1 priority so I found a new one, same with our loan guy and we've had to tell some movers we've chosen someone else.

And I'm awful at it.

And apparently not good at it.

So, I sent out a message just saying we were taking a break from the home purchasing after this last stint and we'd be concentrating on saying goodbye and just moving, which we were.  We just happened to find a house in the meantime with a competent realtor.

Realtor #1 keeps emailing me, daily, to see if there's anything he can do to help.

I had a conversation with him yesterday just him asking if we needed help with our rental and saying to call him and he'd like to help us out.  I ended it "we'll see" which seemed kind of like, "maybe never."  But maybe I wasn't firm at it.

I really don't want to get into why I thought he wasn't right for us, because I'm sure he does business his own way and that seems to work for him, it just didn't work for me.

So, do I just come out and say "we're moving on and we're not taking you with us" or do I just halt communications and figure he gets the picture?

I hate disappointing people, because we've had enough disappointment to fill a barrel lately but when some thing's not working -- it's not working.


  1. It's always good to be forward Hil. You can still say it nicely but that way he isn't waiting around hoping that something would happen. You are awesome and I am so glad things are coming together. Love you!

  2. When we were home searching when we first moved here, we had a realtor who emailed us daily and he kept referring to Brandon as Brian. We strategically stopped responding to his emails and phone calls, hoping he'd get the hint...he never did. One day when I was especially horomonal (due to the pregnancy I'm sure), we received an email from him where he referred to Brandon as Brian again. I had had enough. And quite harshly told him to learn our names and never email us again. And that was the end of his emails. Effective if you ask me.

  3. Oops!!!!!!!!! I meant to post that NOT dena! Not to self don't comment on people's blog unless you're sure you are signed in and not the last person you let use your computer.

    I'm the mean one who chewed out their realtor, NOT dena.

  4. Be direct, but kind. He may have some eggs in your basket too, so it's best to let him know not to count on them. Just a quick "Thanks for your help up to this point. We were able to find a house with the help of a friend in the area and won't be needing any more of your time."

    I'm so glad everything is working out for you. You'll get your happily ever after, after all.


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