Tuesday, September 06, 2011

Tragic Tuesday: Acceptance

Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha{Sigh of relief}

This one sure is the point where you say, "it is what it is."

Isn't it?

I really could spend a LOT of time wallowing.  I could think about all the friends I don't have anymore, all the support that is lacking, the weather {UH the weather}, how I miss our old school, my old job, all the things that used to be.

I could miss it a lot.

But I wouldn't be happy.  Each time I dwell on any of those things, it's like picking at a healing scab.  And it just doesn't heal anything. You have to accept the new reality.

That isn't to say that it's not great to reminisce and realize what a GREAT part of your life that is, but I know that there are some videos I can't watch right now.  There are some photo albums I just can't flip through.  Or I flip back into the other stages.

I also know that if by some weird time change continuum I could go back to the old life, it wouldn't be the same.

Things just never are.

So, you have to accept it.

I guess last week's post sounded like I'm still really depressed about the move.  And while I do have my moments (and I think right now I need to realize the scab is still healing, and it's not time to pull out old movies or think about all the happenings at the other school right now), I am very happy here.  There were a lot of perks to this move, not the least of which is the fact that God wanted this to happen.  We were supposed to move here, and Drew getting laid off just lit a fire under us.

Sadly, that fire is in Arizona. :)  I wish he'd put an ice cube under us some days (although, I think I'd rather be hot then cold).

And life goes on, and it's great and we rebuild here. Because THIS is our life. {uh, that sounded too much like Kate from Jon and Kate.... }


  1. True words. Did you know that it was Joel getting laid off from a really good job when he decided to go to school for his doctorate? Funny enough, it also led us to Arizona. :)

    I missed Arizona quite a bit when we moved to Utah, I never really made friends in Utah, etc. But when we went down to AZ for my brother's weddinga couple years later I realized that it really wasn't the same. People moved on, I moved on, life moved on. Good thoughts.

  2. You're amazing and I loved what you said today... about dwelling on the past is like picking a healing scab. It is SO true and I'm afraid I've spent WAY too much of my life doing just that! I hope you have a great day and I still wish you would've moved to Logan... :)


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