The Saddest Day


Lately, on the endorsement of the amazing Lara I have been reading Boys Adrift.  And boy, oh boy, has it made me re-think boys.  I mean, I’ve been in the boy business for almost 12 years, and NOW I’m re-thinking it.

Great, just great.

Anyway, the point of today’s post (and I’m sure you’ll be seeing a lot of boys adrift post, as motivation is a key factory in how I am focusing on them right now) is that I have, prior to now, kind of let them just do whatev’s with the wii on Saturday’s.  My rule is no wii on school days and we don’t allow electrocnics on Sunday so their one day to play it is Saturday (unless school is out).  BUT, after they’ve played wii, or their DS for 3 hours they get off and they’re just insane.  I kind of figured it was just Saturday, but I just didn’t know what to do.

I mean, let’s step back for a moment — my kids are insane after playing with something and I just don’t know what to do.  Uh huh, I’m a college graduate.

But Mr Sax says that boys should have no more then 40 minutes of gaming on school days (frankly, I don’t agree, I still say no gaming on school days) and no more then an hour on weekends.

{lightbulb} — did anyone else know I was in charge in this house?  I can actually dictate what does and does not happen?  Crazy stuff.

Anyway, new rule is only an hour of “gaming” — that means computer, or DS or wii.  I have also outlawed all violent games on the wii.  Now, I thought we didn’t have any violent games.  I only get “E” ratings, and I don’t allow shooting games.  But, it turns out that violence is more then just shooting (yes, I did get my undergrad at the same place Mitt Romney did, fancy that?).  We have Super Smash Brother’s Brawl.  Turns out, the entire games about hitting people.  And GUESS WHAT my kids would do after playing that game for an hour.

THEY HIT EACH OTHER?

Whaaat?

What on earth would cause THAT?

{BTW, has anyone ever stopped playing Mario Kart, only to get in their car and actually drive and almost have a surreal experience that if you run off this road you’ll actually have problems}

Anyway, back to me.  I instituted this rule on Saturday and we are also in Spring Break, which means the rule is in full force.  That means they have 1 hour of “gaming” (electronic gaming) at their disposal.  I am mainly using the honor system, but I am keeping mental tabs on it too.

There has been weeping, wailing, gnashing of teeth.  We are in the 7th layer of hell with only one hour of gaming.  I am officially the worst mom in the history of the world.

But guess what, I’m seeing improvements.  I sure did on Saturday.  Crazy talk, no?

Honestly, my kids would play wii and DS for 8 hours a day 7 days a week and be perfectly content.  They are that kid.  You may have read about my son’s “want” for technology in another blog post.  I worry about them.  They LOVE the tech.

Anyway that’s what’s going on around here, so if you see their little red swollen eyes and sullen glances you’ll know what I’m talking about.  Just know I’m mean, I am very, very mean.  But a little bit happier.

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Comments

  1. says

    We have the same boys, I guess. Our rules are 1/2 hour of computer (only) on weekdays and just decided to do to one hour on weekends, too. It’s like they get to be the boss and don’t have to put up with other people. And only tv on Fri and Sat. We need to limit that also. Good luck and stay strong. The meanest moms have the best behaved kids.

  2. says

    I don’t think you’re mean. I think you’re right on target with a lot of the parents I know. Mr. N gets 2 hours of what we call “screen time” because he is not in school yet so a good part of that is working on starfall, pbskids, etc. Miss M. gets 1 hour of screen time after school. Screen time can include computer games, wii games, approved tv show, or leapfrog handheld game thing. But it’s 1 hour total. I still have to work with Mr. N on it because that kid would watch tv all day if I let him, so he complains about it sometimes but I try to spread it out throughout the day.

  3. says

    this is my girls and tv. i need to get back to no tv rule during school days and then really limit it other days. i haven’t set a time limit for the other days but it’s coming. and you better believe there will be weeping and wailing and all kinds of good dramatics over it.
    hooray for mean moms! (i highly recommend going back and rereading “mother’s who know” by Julie Beck. i bet she was a mean mom herself. good stuff)

  4. says

    I’m curious about that book now! I wonder where Just Dance would fall into that picture–we love that game over here! . . . I have a pretty sizable list for mine of what needs to be done before Wii, but once Bryce starts getting in a better habit of dong stuff w/o me making him do it, I might have to re-think our rules–we’ll see.

    Btw, there’s a thing from the Wii menu where you can see exactly how many minutes it’s been used? Might want to check that out if the honor system doesn’t end up working.

  5. says

    I have been reading this too. It is really good. The video games we have pretty much under control but I am super worried about the other things like the endocrine disruptors, etc. What did you think of the different aspects of the book?