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I’ve been thinking a lot about marriage lately.

Drew and I had a rough year.

And then, at church, our high councilman gave a talk about how hard marriage is, and how he hated it for the first while.

And I had a hard time not rolling in the isles and saying amen.

How I WISHED there had been a talk like that when I was first married.  We have a lot of young couples in our ward, and I hope it helped some of them.

It’s not that our marriage is perfect now or that I love it every second, but I’m well aware of the ups and downs of marriage.

When I was first married, I’d look at a room full of “perfectly” married couples who adored each other and wonder what was wrong with me?

Turns out I was normal, sometimes that first year can be a doozy.

I recently saw this video:

I really like the comparison between marriage and human life.  We work HARD to save lives at the hospital and I think we all need to realize that sometimes you have to work that hard to stay married.

And that life isn’t a bed of roses.

Sad, but true.

Anyway, that video makes me want to work a littl harder, and maybe do some preventative care.  I think Drew and I might actually get a night away this summer.  First time in years.  That’s good preventative care. :)

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  1. says

    So true. Sometimes it takes everything I have to stay married to my husband. And, ten years in, sometimes it’s worth it. Hopefully by twenty, the balance will have shifted to “more often than not.” Why did no one ever mention that marriage is an endurance sport?

  2. says

    Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for posting this! Why is it that in our church we don’t talk about this? My sister in law & I have been having this conversation for the past 2 days. No one tells you how hard it is and people make you think something is wrong with you if there are marital problems. I was also one of those people looking at other people thinking something was wrong with me because I was having a rough time being married. Is that bad to say when I’ve only been married for 4 years? I really wish we had open discussions about marriage more often in the church because it’s really nice to know I’m not alone. Again, thank you for this and thank you for the video it was great!

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