So, yesterday was just ONE of those parenting days, and I’m just wondering what other people do/woudl do in these situations? Feel free to judge my lack of parenting skills.
1. So, Conner’s invited to a party, I’ve met the parents at school and the entire class is invited. I take him, it’s at a pool but he’s promised he won’t get in (and he doesn’t have his suit with him) the parents say they’re not wanting the kids in the pool and there’s a jumper. I’m hesitant to leave, but I do. First off, do you guys leave your kids at parties if you don’t know the parents very well? I only left for about an hour and came back, I figure he’s gotta be left on his own at some point, and where it was all kids from his class I figured that was the best time to give it a try….
2. I come back, Conner’s in the pool wit his clothes TOTALLY on, well — he took his shirt, shoes and socks off — but the jeans and undies are still on. Now, I’m glad he didn’t go naked(as my mom reminded me), but Conner isn’t a great swimmer, and up until yesterday he refused to get in the pool without a floatie on. Mom of the party is nowhere to be seen and other kids are in with their clothes on too. This is a mobile home park, so there are other kids in the pool besides just the party kids. Would you have gone and found the mom (some of the other class moms are stayed and are watching their kids, I told them goodbye)? I just marched Conner out. Normally we would’ve found her to tell her thank you but being that he was dripping and I was livid with him, we just left (I’m not mad at the mom of the party, I figure it was my responsibility and Conner’s to know better).
3. I fa-REAKED out on Conner. Mostly because he doesn’t know how to swim that well and I wasn’t there, but also because he and I had a discussion about it and we had decided together that he would not go in the pool this weekend, but that we’d find a friend with a pool and we’d all go soon. He had to write down all the things he’d done wrong, he got an extra job, and he has very limited decision making for a bit. Can anyone think of a better punishment? Are you the type of mom where it’s grounding all the time, or are you the type that would let it slide? What would you have done? Parenting is such a crap shoot… but I like to learn from my peeps.