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By: Get Your Stomach On Your Side - Pulling Curls

Get Your Stomach On Your Side - Pulling Curls — Wed, 01 Jul 2015 14:38:04 +0000

[…] usually have quite a hearty stomach, but ever since our future is unclear I have noticed that anything I ate that maybe wasn’t the most agreeable, my stomach would […]

By: Hilary

Hilary — Thu, 23 Apr 2015 14:21:16 +0000

In reply to Debbi. My goodness Debbi, you sure do have a lot on your plate! I have often relied on my church during times like that. Perhaps you could find a place of faith that would help? I wish you the best!

By: Debbi

Debbi — Sun, 19 Apr 2015 23:22:43 +0000

Hi Hilary,
I read your page because I read anything that has to do with difficulties in life, praying to God, and depression. I am 65 and close to 7 years ago my husband and I moved from Mich.City, IN to Florida so that my husband could be closer to his grandkids, etc. It only seemed fair since the time we had been together, we had been by my family. My husband also had health problems so the hot was better than the freezing cold winters in IN. I adjusted pretty well, although truth be told, his family really never made any attempts to visit etc. unless it was a holiday. Anyway, I considered myself lucky because I was married to my best friend and I knew God was taking care of us. But a year ago last month my husband passed away and before that he was in a nursing home for almost a year. Between raising kids, being married, etc. I had never been totally alone in my whole life and my depression has only gotten worse. I moved to a different city in FL because my cousin lived there and a good friend lived there so again, I thought that God was looking out for me and giving me a support group. It never turned out that way….I have been in my new place for almost 3 months but since I did not know the area at all, I evidently rented the wrong apartment because it is on the outskirts of the city itself, therefore it is like a 12-15 minute drive. My cousin and my friend have each been to visit me one time only. I have gone to see them several times but they are evidently to busy & have their own friends etc. that they never seem to ask me to do anything with them. They were both in favor of my moving here, so I just don’t get it. When I was younger and went thru a divorce with my first husband, I was young and I was strong. I raised my 3 kids by myself, he never paid child support, and plenty of things happened until I used to joke that I kept having the rug pulled out from underneath me so many times that my toes were curled from trying to hold on instead of falling. But this time, at the age of 65, I am not strong at all. I feel like I am broken inside, I am lonely and alone, I still believe in God but I know there are so many days that I have let him down. I am going to be starting counseling in May, so I do talk and pray to God that it helps me and I do think that when my year is up in this apartment, I will end up moving back to IN.. I read your list of 6 things above and I am glad I did because hopefully they will push me to try my best to learn to accept things the way they are. I hope things start getting a little better for you and your family and you can stop being so worried so much of the time. God Bless.

By: Hilary

Hilary — Sat, 18 Apr 2015 14:41:15 +0000

In reply to M.

M, that’s really hard. I am sorry your family is having to go through that. I wish you guys the best of luck! 🙂 Did you read my “parable of the oil tanker”? it’s a good reminder for me! 🙂 http://www.pullingcurls.com/2014/07/library-books-turned-parable-oil-tanker.html

By: M

Sat, 18 Apr 2015 02:46:57 +0000

Hi Hilary, I read this post and an older “Lack of control” post and we are in a similar situation.
My husband has worked at a position for 9 &1/2 years and he has worked very hard and done a
good job. New management came in and within 2 weeks he was told that they want to move in
a different direction. He can work at a local level but no info on what location. There will be a cut
in pay but no one can give us any information on that. It has been 3 weeks. Numerous co-workers have said that this is wrong but at this point’ it is what is happening and we need to figure it out. Thankfully he had some vacation. He has made many phone calls and sent resumes and replied to postings but nothing yet. In this time span there have been medical problems and emergency room visits. It’s hard because it is all out of our control because we have done what we can.. The budget has been on lock-down since January when I was injured and I am still not back to work. We have been hit on all sides and are working hard to trust in God for his direction and for Him to make a way.. So my husband will have to try to cope with all of the game playing going on in the meantime.. We are literally flying blind as far as budget and this is hard for me. I am also a planner. Pray for us and I will be praying for you also. Thank you for your posts and transparency. I look forward to reading about your progress.

By: Hilary

Hilary — Thu, 16 Apr 2015 20:17:48 +0000

In reply to Aubrey. Haha, sometimes being social makes it harder, which is entirely ludicrous. Life goes on. God could kill me at any point too.... can't be sad about the unknown future. :)

By: Aubrey

Aubrey — Thu, 16 Apr 2015 04:09:55 +0000

I’m at a loss as to how to help you. Lunch on Friday will help though. And if you need more organizing projects, I have a couple that could use your mad organizing skills to help! 😉 Love you, my friend.