What is it about the LDS religion (the Utah-corridor, specifically) in which women look at other women and instead of marveling in how everyone has amazing talents that we can draw from and enjoy, instead we think one of two things:
1) Ill of them
2) Ill of ourselves.
There has been a viral Mormon post about how this women looks at other women and realizes she can’t be all those women. She can’t dress amazing, or sew amazing costumes, or make delicious food — she just can’t be all those people, and it frustrates her — but she wrote a blog post about how that’s OK.
WELL, WHO THE HECK NEEDS TO BE AMAZING AT EVERYTHING!? Does anyone really want to? I am grateful there are things I am NOT good at, because I don’t will myself to share that talent. I’m grateful other people fill in the holes.
I think that we need to look at our church as a culture (because I truly believe this is an LDS phenomenon of women of who are trying to be “perfect” — while being sometimes polar opposites of perfection as Christ taught us), and see what we are doing to cause this. I don’t need Paige looking at other people and either coveting or hating.
I don’t know about them, but I find myself to be a Christian — a follower of Christ.
Did Jesus ever look at someone else and wonder why he couldn’t do that? Do you think he smiled and gave a little shoulder pat reminded him that He loved them. He was proud of them for working hard.
Because HE LOVES THEM.
The religion I belong to is about love.
Loving yourself, loving others, and realizing that each day you’re trying to improve and perhaps by watching others you CAN improve. And instead we have women with an internal dialogue that says, “She is better at that then me, I hate her.” OR “She is better at that then me, I hate myself.” (I realize that these sentances take it to the extreme — but I hope you know what I mean).
What in those two sentances is Christlike?
When you think of Christ, do you think of someone who was good at EVERYTHING? Honestly, I don’t. I am sure there were people who were better at certain things then He was. I think he was fine (and most likely grateful) for this quality.
I read the post days ago — and I just can’t get it out of my head. How and WHY it is SUCH an issue.
I always feel insanely akward when women look at me and tell me I do it all. I don’t. I’m planning on a good hour of reality TV after I write this blog. That’s what I need today. I’m so grateful to not have a meeting to be at. I need some trash TV.
On the reverse, I am SO thankful for the women around me who are amazing examples in their own niche. I had some good lookin’ friends in California who made me re-think my mom uniform sans make-up and decided to do something about it. Am I fashionista? No. But, I am trying to look like I care about the eyes of the people who look at me.
I love to try new recipes friends put on the internet.
I am so grateful for friends who share little doses of their niche so I can learn and grow. I don’t need their niche to be my niche…
I have no desire to look perfect or worry about brands — but if that makes someone happy I guess that’s their thing.
Do you think this is mainly an LDS thing. Do you think it’s mainly a stay at home mom thing? Maybe that’s why we see it more in the LDS population?
I’m just saying, if it happens to you, I want to know why. I want to change young female minds to believe that they are good. They won’t ever be perfect at everything. It’s not about perfection in sewing, cooking, gardening — God’s looking for a perfect heart. And you can’t know someone else’s heart. Unless you are a cardiologist. 🙂