Comments on: Phases

By: Amy

Amy — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 02:55:00 +0000

We're big on trust at our house. But usually the older ones understand that concept better.

Alex went through a lying phase so every time we caught him in a lie, we took away a privelege. This seems to work with the boys at our house. Sometimes, they end up with the only thing they can do is read in their room. After about 3-4 days of this- they've changed their behavior real fast. We take away computer, Wii, play dates with friends, TV, etc. until all their left with is themselves and a book. This doesn't so much work on the girls- that is there choice of how to spend a Saturday- curled up with a good book!

Good luck!

P.S. Washing walls and baseboards and other hard labor is also a good 'ole standby punishment- I use that one often for any age.

By: Bringhurst Family

Bringhurst Family — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 02:15:00 +0000

Haven’t had a real phase of this. And boy would it drive me crazy. When any of my kids do fib I usually hound them on the specific subject of lying. Like if it was brushing teeth I’d ask them if they want holes in their teeth and their friends to tell them they have bad breath. But I’ve not have the priveledge of a “phase”. If faced with it I would probably set up a few well played out instances where I lie to them about something that will specifically effect them then immediatly trace out all the consequences etc. Pointing out how they can’t trust me and all that would do. Hope it’s over soon.

By: Lara

Lara — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 20:26:00 +0000

B is having the same issue recently. I finally asked her why and she just said because she’s so afraid of getting in trouble. So, to counteract it, I have really been working on not being so hard on her when she does something she shouldn’t (or doesn’t do something she should). I’m realizing that I am really hard on her most of the time, so now the main thing is that she gets in the most trouble for lying. The end.