My kids have a lot of fears. I don’t think that’s rare, but I do think mine are more afraid then most. I fear that comes from me. Many of you might remember my plane trip fiasco’s. HOWEVER, I’m a big fan of working through irrational fears. I just think you need to get through them. I HATE going on roller coasters, but I like to push myself to get through it. And once I’ve done it, I’m done and I don’t feel like I need to conquer it again (and I still know I hate it).
Anyway, yesterday we were at the local pool and I decided that Conner needed to go off the diving board. He thinks he is now God’s gift to swimming, so I wanted to push him. And he didn’t want to. BUT, he’s 11, and I think he needs to try it, especially in a super safe way when there’s lifeguards and I’m right there.
I told he would have bread and water if he didn’t go. I said I’d go with him (and frankly, it’s not my favorite thing to do either) and if he didn’t go, he’d miss out on regular dinner. There were tears, a lot of them. I had to talk to him for 20 minutes, but I finally just did it myself and then left him to do it or not. He did have one false start, where he went back down but then he went back up and did it. A puny little dive, but a dive nevertheless…
I just feel really strongly that I need to start to push him outside his comfort zone, and because I am officially in charge, I can do that. I worry that fears are going to rule his life, that he won’t be used to being out of his comfort zone, and that’s not helpful to anyone.
Today, we went for his shots (I decided to go to a freebie shot clinic that’s run by the county… wtg me). I literally had to pin him down he LOST it as we go to the shot area. He couldn’t stop himself from blocking the shot. I was uber embarrassed, as when I worked for a pediatrician I VOWED those would NOT be my kids. But they are. I could have done a better job preparing him, but this came really fast, and I needed to get it done. So we did.
So, there you go. I’m pushy. No newsflash there.
Do you feel like you have to push your kids? Do you think that I went too far?
Sometimes I think Heavenly Father was pushing me with this move here. I know that good parents want their children to stretch.
I was really proud of Conner jumping off the diving board. He’s growing up, and he still will since he got to eat dinner last night (Fettucine Alfredo — totally worth it).