Hi, is this Mrs. E? Yes? Oh, well this is Mrs. B… and I just wanted to share a little incident that happened with El Presidante today…
Is it a fight? I know he hasn’t been getting along as well with a kid who used to be his best friend — I think my brother got in a fight once in Jr High… is he going to turn into my brother? Was he looking at porn? Did he say something inappropriate? My goodness, JUST OUT WITH IT, WHAT IS IT?
Well, it’s the computer, and thankfully he’s not looking at porn. He’s looking at nine million other things and just can’t keep his hands off it.
Now, we live in a VERY technological school district. He has laptops available to him in the classroom and they integrate technology a lot, but that gives him leeway to hurry through written assignments and then run to the computer like his pants are on fire.
And he does.
But I think his teacher’s had enough of it. As am I. So, we’re both giving him absolutely no computer time for a couple of weeks. He needs to realize the computer’s a privilege, not a way of life.
I have also taken away the wii and the DS for the weekend, and he’s not allowed to use the laptop to adjust the TV (although, he can use it if I or Drew adjust it for him).
Much like the rest of his life, it’s like he can’t physically help himself. His impulse control on a scale of 1 to 10 is like a 2. Really, this is no news flash.
But I thought about that phone call. A lot of parents get them frequently and there’s so many ways to react to them. I think the initial instinct is defensively — but I honestly think the best reaction is to back-up the teacher, which is why I came up with the idea of no computer at home (because she is limiting it at school). There are many reasons, but the main one is that I want to enforce the fact that the teacher is in charge and what she says, stays. She and I are on the same team, 100%. In fact, I think she’s heartbroken to get after him. She really adores Conner, and I think she’s given him a bit of lee-way up til’ this incident. She actually said, “it’s time for me to be the grown-up here.” I really like her.
Anyway, I think it’s important to remember the teacher spends almost as much time with your child as you do (sad, but true) and she does this for a living, and has hundreds of other kids in the same age frame to compare it with.
So, as el Presidante has his lunch detention today I hope he learns a lesson. I hope he learns how to stay on task and realize that there is a whole world outside of computers.
Have you gotten “the” phone call? How did you react?