I am literally mulling over increasing my position at the middle school.
And then I look at my life.
I am not doing this here to brag, I’m just saying these are my family’s obligations:
- Princess P is home full time with me, she will attend preschool next year but it will only be 2.5 hours and I am excited/sad to have that last year with my baby at home.
- Drew is the assistant scout master
- Drew’s job keeps him out of the home a lot — there are times he’s home in the early afternoon but during musical time or marching band season I can’t depend on him for a whole lot
- I have a job, and it can be a very stressful job, even if it is just one day a week.
- I am on the PTO board at the elementary
- I have a difficult committee chair at the elementary
- I am already secretary on the middle school pto board
- I teach 4 year olds each Sunday at church
- I have 3 kids. JEEZE, I have three freaking kids and they literally came at the last of my list. Not that this list was in any particular order, but the reality is that I became a stay at home mom to BE with my kids, not to volunteer the life out of myself.
- Oh, and I volunteer in the classroom a couple of times a month
That is all. 🙂 Well, it’s all I am thinking of right now.
And I am considering piling on more?
And now is when I bookmark this post to read when I consider doing something really stupid.
The thing is I think that volunteering is really important, especially for SAHM (and I include myself as a stay at home mom because I am home a good percentage more then I am at work). I think it helps us get out of the house, meet new people, find good friends for both ourselves and our kids.
I just think it can eat us alive.
So, the best might be (and I don’t really think that it is) thoughtfully taking each task that needs help and giving it my all.
And the good might be finding what really needs my help, and applying it there. And maybe taking a little more thought into those 3 kids who need a centered mom by the time they come home, and not one who is already busting at the seams with things to do.
**I actually, for the most part, don’t find myself to be over-busy. I certainly have enough time to watch my Downton Abbey a few times each week. I just think that over-committing a mom who already gets very little help really does no one any good. Especially, said mom.
How do you find the good balance in volunteering?