Comments on: Things Your Mom Did Wrong

By: Hilary

Hilary — Mon, 07 Mar 2016 15:44:13 +0000

In reply to KYocum. Haha, we all do things that just end up working for us!

By: KYocum

KYocum — Wed, 02 Mar 2016 20:44:03 +0000

In reply to Jericho.

If your child is ONLY on their back when sleeping, this won’t happen. What typically causes it is parents who consistently don’t hold their children or give them tummy time when awake. Sleeping alone won’t cause it. Or all 3 of mine would have had it.

But I broke several rules. We had bumpers & one small blanket.

I fed them rice cereal at 4 weeks. I know, horrible, but when your child is eating 6-8 oz every TWO hours….you’ve got to do something! I know part of it was a growth spurt, & part was because my milk had dried up & we’d been forced to switch to formula. I made it a week longer as I had each child, so it was the same issue 2 weeks after switching to formula every time.

But we’ve got 3 healthy kiddos, 14, 11, & 7. No food allergies of any kind. Some sinus issues here & there, but seasonal….and I live in goldenrod central, so it’s gonna happen!

All are very tall for their ages, & very active & bright. I might have hit the genetic lottery, or maybe I”m doing one or two things right!

By: Hilary

Hilary — Thu, 18 Feb 2016 03:32:51 +0000

In reply to Melissa. I am the youngest and my brother is in his 40's. I have heard a lot of friends my age say their moms didn't breastfeed, so who knows. It would have been nice to have had a mom who was more supportive, but she just knew bottle feeding. Life went on. :)

By: Melissa

Melissa — Wed, 17 Feb 2016 20:00:54 +0000

I don’t know how old your mother was, but when I had my children, (who are currently in their early to late-thirties,) we were totally the generation of breast feeding and NO honey before the age of 12 months. We were the “Our Bodies, Ourselves,” natural childbirth, feminist trail blazers. Yes, the accepted “rules” change over the years – and will continue to do so, but I think you have us confused with the previous generation. My mother-in-law was more of a “formula is best,” “prop the bottle,” “early solids” mom. I’m still not 100% convinced that back sleeping is best, but I always bow to the current wisdom of the day and support my daughters.

By: What is SIDS and how to prevent It - Pulling Curls

What is SIDS and how to prevent It - Pulling Curls — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 01:07:08 +0000

[…] Back to sleep. They will beat this into you in the hospital. Most of our moms laid us on our bellies when we were babies. It sort of makes sense, if you spit-up it just comes […]

By: Hilary

Hilary — Tue, 22 Dec 2015 03:48:52 +0000

In reply to Jemma. I couldn't agree more. I just think a lot of girls get really confused when their doctor tells them one thing and their mom tells them another That's all this post is for. :)

By: Hilary

Hilary — Tue, 22 Dec 2015 03:45:33 +0000

In reply to Karla.

a) I don’t think you should feel guilty — I have a lot of friends who’ve done it.
b) I don’t think this is just popular opinion. It’s pretty well studied that it has helped. Although, no one knows why SIDs happens, so I guess no one knows!
We’re all just doing our best. 🙂

By: Karla

Karla — Fri, 18 Dec 2015 21:10:39 +0000

I don’t go with the crowd or popular opinion – I follow my own instincts. I think something becomes “wrong” when something bad happens, and we point fingers because we want someone or something to blame.

I felt horribly guilty, like I was doing something wrong, when my firstborn wouldn’t go to sleep on her back. Isn’t “back best?” Well, guess what? ALL of my babies were tummy sleepers, and they are still alive today. I comforted myself with the fact that, if they spit up, they wouldn’t choke to death. I have also learned that SIDS may be due to some inner ear complication, which I’m not sure has anything at all to do with sleeping positions.

I also had bumpers and stuffed animals in their cribs at the other end where it wouldn’t be in their faces.

We also co-slept, which is a big no-no for some, but wonderful for us. Just because it’s not something YOU would do, doesn’t mean it’s “wrong.”

I was shocked when I found out my mother fed me formula – I just assumed she breastfed me! It’s also funny to read pamphlets the doctors used to hand out to new mothers, advising to give babies orange juice and cereal at an early age. Yikes!

By: Jemma

Jemma — Wed, 16 Dec 2015 12:10:05 +0000

I saw this post and just had to leave a comment.
I certainly understand how times have changed, and naturally some things are for the better and some are not. I personally feel as though it is called balanced and being able to discern and filter methods, ideas and scientific facts.
I am sure that you will find that when your own children are grown, they too will reflect back on your methods of child rearing and find many things that you could have done better.
As Mothers, no matter the generation that we come from, I find that for the most part we all do the best we can do, with the resources and knowledge that we have available.

By: Jericho

Jericho — Thu, 10 Sep 2015 21:12:12 +0000

Gee, how the times change. While you passively aggressively alienate some moms, I’d like to open them up to a bit of contradictory information. Back to Sleep is NOT best. It causes Deformational Plagiocephaly (Flat Head Syndrome) which in turn leads to developmental delays and deficits, five times the occurrence of SIDS. It often results in significantly higher rates of learning disorders. Children who suffer from DP end up in cranial helmets and re-positional therapy, as well as occupational therapy by the age of 4 to rectify the lack of core/spine development. It has been noticed that children with DP have a serious lack in development, physically, mentally and emotionally. So much so, that several studies are in the works to backpeddle the old “back is best” standard from the 90’s.
Deformational Plagiocephaly is a result of sleeping on the back, laying in swings/carseats/bouncy chairs, and other parenting props so commonly used by the “new moms” who no longer take any of their mom’s advice (thankfully, my daughters take mine)
The SIDS numbers do not take into account a per capita ratio, but the developmental damage being caused by the Back to Sleep campaign is utterly astounding. Please start teaching your readers, and those new moms in your care, to start rolling their babies over. Back is Not Best.