This morning while cuddling my healing 2 year old (I hate it when they have high fevers, even though I know it’s not a big deal… I still know they’re so uncomfortable — but I do think she’s on the mend now). I saw this story on the today show. It is an awful story, and any story that ends in someone taking their own life is always an unhappy thing, but i had SO many thoughts whizzing through my head when I was watching it. Let me see if I can enumerate:
1. Kids shouldn’t bully. That’s the truth. But, newsflash — I got bullied. Did you? Wasn’t it a part of growing up? Sure, no one called me a fag, but they were mean about my hair, my glasses, the clothes I wore. They were mean. And my mom told me that there are mean girls and it’s a part of life to learn how to stand up to people like that around you. And I think it made me a stronger person. 2nd newflash, I still get kind of bullied today. The night shift girls at the new job are less then, well, nice. Ok, only a few of them, But SHEESH I’m bending over backward to be nice to these ladies. And I get flack and crap from them. Again, it’s part of life and you learn to accommodate.
2. Where are the parents of these awful kids? I am NOT OK with my kids bullying. When/if my kids have facebook accounts, I will have their password and I will also be their friend. I will check it frequently. I will also talk to them, about their day and things they’re doing. I do it now. Yeesh. I’m just tired of kids cyber lives being private from their parents. My kids have no privacy. Deal with it youngsters. 🙂
3. It’s our job to set our kids up with good friends and with self esteem to carry them through certain moments. It’s our job to surround them with adults that they can talk to if they can’t talk to us — teachers, people from church, family friends. Lots of involvement. Just like my mom said, it’s part of life — girls are mean.
4. We need to stop talking so much about the sexuality of our kids. You’re in high school, concentrate on math and science and not who lights your fire. And parents need to make it clear that if it’s a boy or a girl that doesn’t need to be your focus — school and making FRIENDSHIPS needs to be your focus. Keep your pants zipped.
I think it all boils down to the fact that parents need to be involved. I love how Lady GaGa went to the president to talk about how we should make a law against bullying. Can’t we make it a law that stupid people can’t have kids? Of course, I’d be out of a job…
I’m just saying.
I will also say that I think raising your kids with some religious faith in a God who loves them and has put them here with a purpose can really help out. On both ends.
Really sorry for his family though, that is a hard, hard thing that will be with them forever.