I know I have ranted on my personal un-need to have the priesthood. I feel just fine in my superhero role as primary president. But, I think we, as a church, need to look at these women who both desperately believe in the gospel, but also REALLY want the priesthood.
I don’t think we should dismiss it as Satan’s way to control women in their unrighteousness, or simple foolishness… I think we need to hear these women out. I mean, if we are all meant to sustain our leaders, we really should hear them all out.
I’ve thought about it more lately.
I sat in a temple recommend interviews last night. Me, alone with a man. I don’t have issue with it, but a woman how HAS had issue with men in the past may feel really afraid in that situation. Often, in the stake presidency, you don’t know the man well and you are stuck in a room alone with him. I see that. Do people ever make allowance for this situation? Can your husband or a female friend come in with you?
I am currently having staffing issues in primary (which, I am sure, will continue until I am released) but I am REALLY not used to being able to fix a problem myself. I mean, if the carnival has issues I send feelers out with my female friends to get help. I just can’t do that. I have to wait for the priesthood authority to get it done. And we have a new bishop, and while I am understanding of his need to see the entire picture of the ward that doesn’t mean that having the nursery understaffed isn’t unsettling, as I am preparing a program with 50 kids at the same time. And honestly, I have had to take a step back and realize that the nursery issue is small and I need to realize that our bishopric was called to specifically tap people for callings. That’s their job and I need to let them do it. I can find helpers for nursery and make do until then.
I have thought about our inability to give a priesthood blessing. And I just really strongly believe that a fervent prayer from the mouth of a mom/wife/friend is just as heard by the mouth of God. Some women don’t. I bet that does hurt.
I think single sisters surviving in a church that is so VERY focused on families should be applauded. I can’t imagine how difficult it would be for me to have to call someone to obtain something that other women have so readily available. A good single sister is worth her weight in gold. They are good, helpful, kind and obedient. They see needs and able to fulfill it without the excess baggage of a family/children. I truly believe that a righteous single woman’s faithfulness is worth more then a married woman’s faithfulness. Theirs is a difficult path. They need to KNOW that the priesthood is readily available to them. I’m not sure how we communicate this, or how they really feel… I just guess that this would be hard.
But, I really think we need to think about these issues. And we need to love the women that have the issues. I think that a woman with a pure intent who truly feels like less of a human because she is unable to bear the priesthood needs to be listened to. I think she should have a heart to heart with both her husband and her bishop, or even the relief society president. Perhaps the bishop could think of ways to make her feel more comfortable, or able to clear up doctrine with the Spirit of Christ backing up that will help her feel more at ease in her own role.
Because we each have our own roles. I guess that’s what it boils down to for me. We need to find comfort and a happy place within those roles. I’m grateful for women who have thought enough about their role in the church be so strongly concerned in the matter. I wish those women well on their journeys. May they find peace.