I mentioned in a recent post that Moms of newborns are super judgmental of every step of other moms of newborns (not always true — read the blog post to get the full gist of my thoughts), but I’d have to say that in high school we mostly all just have our hands in the air, running around and screaming. Figuring out the fine line of activity in high school is a hard decision for both parents and kids.
I have made it a bit of a sport to guess how high schoolers were going to do as they progressed along their high school path. My husband teaches high school and I have been very involved in our church youth programs in the past. I felt like I started to get a handle on right and wrong choices.
Until my son entered high school last fall.
I really believe that kids NEED extracurricular activities in high school. The kids who did well were involved and felt part of a tribe. Be it band, sports, theater, choir — they needed to find their niche.
Kids who just went to school and came home to do homework seemed to flounder. They often wanted to home school, which I found to be the WORST option.
I think most intentional parents believe that activities for kids are great too. It’s just there is SO MUCH.
My oldest son is heavily involved in the music department, but I also want him to try theater and a sport, as well as being in some clubs. I see other kids succeeding in their areas (DECA, computer engineering, FFA) and I wonder if maybe he should try those.
And then I stop, and realize that he takes almost entirely all honors and has a hard time keeping up with that.
And frankly, grades are what will take us onto our next step (with some support from extracurricular).
For us, it’s been to focus on the niche and try to step outside that niche once a year. So, maybe we’ll try the theater or a sports team along with band next year.
I’m not saying that’s the answer, and it’s certainly not the answer for everyone. Obviously, it will vary with the school you’re at and the teachers involved in the areas they’re interested in.
And the final call is to NEVER judge how other kids/families are finding their way along that fine line. For the reality is that we are all trying our best. We all have very different kids and I wish figuring out attachment parenting or sleep scheduling would save us on this one. This is just far more complicated.
It’s AP parenting, not for the faint of heart. 🙂 What are your tips for “finding the line”? If you liked this post you might want to follow my High School Pinterest board .