But I’m tired, I just want this baby out. It’s SO uncomfortable. You have no idea how this feels. I can’t take it anymore. You have to induce me.
Yup, I’ve heard it all before. I hear it all the time. I’m callus to it.
I know just how you feel.
Because my baby was 12 days overdue.
I’d had kidney stones, my pelvis had split, I could barely put my pants on and I cried almost every day. I was miserable.
But I was winning.
Because I was letting my baby choose.
FYI, I’m Hilary — a labor nurse with 15 years of experience seeing inductions go both right and wrong, as well a behind the scenes look at how inductions work and can be both good and bad for your baby. Helping pregnant women is one of my favorite things, so I hope you find this helpful!
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Now, in an effort for full disclosure — I did end-up getting induced. At 12 days overdue my doctor talked me into it. I do believe that after 41 weeks, induction is certainly something you should talk about. Your placenta has a “shelf life” and is really only meant to last 40 weeks plus a couple more…. after that, it’s really not healthy for your baby to be cooped up in your uterus.
If you’re looking for a little help on how to go into labor — check that post out!
Why is being overdue a win?
- It’s cheaper to have less medical interventions. Having pitocin and long labor stays really adds to your bill. Of course, in the US with insurance you rarely see it — but it’s true. 🙂
- Your weeks could be off. Ultrasound dating isn’t a perfect science. Also, the further along in your pregnancy you are, the less accurate it is. Plus or minus 2 weeks is the standard. That means, when you think you’re 40 weeks, you could really only be 38. You want the baby to have all the growing time inside that it can.
- Overdue babies are easier. Perhaps it’s an old wives tale, but I do think that premature babies have a much harder time adjusting to life on our planet breathing air and pooping. It’s tough people.
- You might get more time off. Hate me if you’d like – -but in California you get 4 weeks off before you due date, and then 12 weeks after your baby is born. That means, for every day I was pregnant it was like I was being paid to gestate. Just extra money in our pocket. Is that a crazy way to think about it, yes — but sometimes crazy things still make us feel better.
- Let it go. Yes, Elsa. Maybe having a little less control over your life is a good thing. Of course, this is totally the pot calling the kettle black, but so many people want to control their delivery when in reality they have zero control. So, it’s time to start that now.
My two less favorite reasons for induction (although, here’s a few ways to go into labor on your own)
- My family is in town. I really think the best plan is to either have your mom buy a standby ticket, or plan to not be there until a week after your due date. I feel horrible when people end-up with a c-section just because their mom was in town. And, if you’re the mom — encourage your daughter to be flexible about you coming. Often, I find it’s the mom who’s pushing the induction.
- I’m miserable. Great. You’re growing a human inside of you. That sounds pretty miserable. Tell your husband you’re done with housework. Do the bare minimum. Gestate. Find a favorite series and binge watch. If that’s all you can do, to gestate, then it’s all you can do. But do it.
Yes, there are PLENTY of reasons to be induced (and if you’re getting induced, I wrote this post on pregnant chicken — about induction), but the overwhelming evidence encourages moms to go the full 40. Stop begging your doctor to induce you early. Just gestate. Enjoy that baby on the inside. They’re so quiet there. 🙂
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