Should you hire a doula? Using a doula has many pros and cons. We’re going to talk the advantages and disadvantages of hiring a doula and if you really need one, or if they will be a waste of money.
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What is a Doula?
A doula is someone you hire to get you through labor — a labor coach. Sometimes they teach prenatal classes or meet with you during your pregnancy to give you tips and tricks, there are even postpartum doulas to help you transition to your new life.
Their services vary pretty widely. There is an organization for them called DONA (there is more than that one, but it’s the one I’ve been most familiar with). I am pretty sure you can certify. Many of them to internships with experienced doulas.
Doulas can be certified, but many aren’t.
It can be confusing to navigate the world of hiring a doula.
As a labor nurse since 2001, I have met and worked with many doulas. I am going mainly off my experience with them for almost 20 years in the field.
What do doulas do?
You can really boil it down to someone to support women in labor. They’re very hands-on in helping you cope with the pain.
- Pain management
- Helping you make healthcare choices
- Encouraging you to keep going!
Mostly they’re you’re educated cheerleader.
I think most Doula’s hearts are in a lovely place. They really are working to empower women and show them that they can have a wonderful labor. I think that is great.
Pros and Cons of Doulas
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Advantages of a doula
There are many benefits of having a doula — let’s talk about them!
1. If you are delivering alone I would really recommend getting a doula. There are women out there who don’t have a person to support them during the labor. The reality is that I can’t be in your room all the time. I have to pee, grab supplies, chart, and I may have another patient. BUT, you could also grab a friend whom you love and trust.
I had a patient who hired a doula. She didn’t want her mom in the room (the father wasn’t involved) and that doula was REALLY helpful. The woman was a mess. I had other patients, I couldn’t put this woman’s pieces back together. Again, super helpful doula. And this woman REALLY needed her as she had no other support system.
2. Doulas have a basic knowledge of labor and delivery. They might be helpful to take a basic prenatal class with. If they are certified they should have some basic knowledge that is correct (although, there is no way to know how correct their knowledge is).
It’s nice to have someone constantly at your side who has educated answers. Again, your labor nurse won’t be in the room all the time, and the doula can be.
She has hopefully seen many births and will be able to help you navigate your birth choices with a bit more ease.
3. Sometimes doulas are affiliated with physicians, so they know how your doctor likes to do things and that could be helpful to educate you since sometimes your doctor doesn’t have time.
4. Doulas may decrease your chances of interventions. There is a study that backs them up on this. In my experience, I see a variety of reasons for the decreased interventions (they tend to have clients with good prenatal care, are likely college graduates, well off — etc). I’m not sure that I’ve seen a doula change anything, except for epidurals.
They are good at supporting you through the pain. They have great advice for finding a comfortable position or things you can do to take your mind off the pain. If you have a strong desire to go natural and your husband may not be that helpful in that instance, I would possibly consider a doula.
Disadvantages of a doula
There are also man con’s to hiring a doula — let’s talk about those:
1. They get in your husband/partner’s way. I really believe that God created labor to bring husband and wife together in the pain that culminates their start in parenthood.
If you want your husband playing candy crush in the chair while she does the hard work. By all means, hire a doula. {note: sarcasm font — not every delivery is like that}
I liked to see my husband suffer a bit with me. I love seeing supportive husbands. It shows me that woman will have the support in her next journey, raising the child. If you and your husband really want to prepare for this — I have the answer!
2. Yes, they have a basic understanding of labor, but my job is to know ALL about labor. It’s what I do, it’s my job. I go to classes, I went to five years of nursing school, I discuss it with doctors when we’re at the nurse’s station, we read articles.
We’re up to date on the most current info. My job is to KNOW labor, and especially the complications of labor.
You’re already paying me. Ask me questions, let me help you understand. Ask your doctor questions, they’re not free either!
3. They vary SO widely. Again, I don’t mind doulas (I really don’t, you might guess otherwise with this article) but sometimes you get ones who are so early in their practice that they aren’t helpful to the patient and they’re in your way or questioning you.
To me, It’s super annoying. New doulas are not helpful. In fact, I often find them a deterrent. It takes more of my time to correct them or to talk through misinformation.
There are a few I’ve worked with who are WONDERFUL. I’d say if you’re looking for one, I’d get a LOT of references and ask how much they felt the doula helped. I’d ask how many deliveries they’ve been to.
Experience is going to be key in finding a good doula.
4. (and honestly, probably my #1 con) They are expensive. And, if they’re not expensive, they probably aren’t that good. This is their job. They make money doing it.
In reality, I think good doulas probably make more for a labor than I do.
It’s hard work. A good doula earns her money.
I guess you just need to ask if you could use that money more efficiently in your child’s college fund. I know for many parents the money isn’t the issue, so this won’t matter. BUT, if money is tight, I think it’s time to step back and re-evaluate your finances.
Real quick — let’s talk about supportive partners.
If you’re looking to have a partner who supports you more during labor, I have a course I totally recommend. It’s done in the privacy of your own home on your own timeline, and is meant to be done AS A COUPLE! Be SURE to check it out — you can even save 10% with code PC10.
People love all the experience, how quick it is to get JUST the right info on your own schedule, and I keep it simple and understandable. I think you’ll love it — I even guarantee it.
Doula vs Midwife
There are different types of midwives. In the hospital, only Certified Nurse Midwives (CNM) are allowed to practice.
In Arizona within a few years, that person has to have a doctorate of nursing, along with a masters in midwifery (plus, a bachelors in nursing, and most practiced as L&D nurses before they became midwives). So, essentially — you could also call them doctor. 🙂
There are also lay midwives who go through other training. I’m not familiar with them/that training, so I can’t comment on that.
BUT, Certified nurse midwives are AWESOME. They really do the work of a doula, but they may also have several patients, so again — they may not be able to be in your room all the time either.
The midwife will also deliver your baby (as long as things go according to plan).
I want to be very clear that doulas should not, nor are they trained, to do any medical intervention at all.
Certified Nurse Midwives can do many of the things that doctors can do.
Is a doula necessary?
Absolutely not.
You WILL have a labor nurse who should be willing to answer questions and help guide you along your L&D path.
However, she won’t be in there constantly, and pain management isn’t really her job as she also has a lot of other things to be concerned about.
If you want 1 on 1 involvement, a doula might be your best choice.
Should I hire a doula?
I think if you feel like your husband might get overwhelmed, you’re wanting to go natural or you lack trust in your MD (and are unable to change) it might be a good plan.
I 100% think you need to talk it through with your partner. It is just as much their delivery as yours. If the thought of having a stranger there bothers them, you need to take account for that.
Tips if you are hiring a doula:
- Get references. I would ask for SEVERAL references. Many doulas are recently out of training and don’t actually have much experience of their own.
- Talk to your provider I would also ask your MD if they have recommendations (as having your doula and your MD at odds is a very awkward situation).
- Decide what services you’ll need — many doulas provide care before delivery and after delivery — and clearly, all those services cost extra.
Sidenote: Many doulas offer placental encapsulation, but if they’re pushing it you might want to steer clear of them as it is strongly discouraged anymore.
Birth Doula FAQ’s
It really depends on your individual situation — as I’ve talked about in this article.
If you’re considering a doula would start looking once you pass your first trimester. You should have one solidified by 33 weeks, for sure.
I’d try to get references and ideas of who you could/should use as early as possible though.
The prices seem to be ALL over the place. The # I have heard most often is $300-$500. I also think that the best doulas cost more, which makes sense.
No. A doula has absolutely no medical training. They can not assist you in a home birth, they can not deliver the baby. They’re there for YOU, that is it.
While this is very different than what we are talking about. He/she helps families navigate the tricky time before a loved one’s death. Oddly enough, I worked as a hospice nurse for about a year, but they were not a thing in 2000 when I was in that field.
A midwife has medical training to take care of moms and babies at delivery. A doula does not.
Is a Doula a waste of money?
But my own personal opinion, after almost 14 years as a labor and delivery nurse. In a perfect world – the people who were there when the baby was conceived should be there when the baby comes out. Plus a doctor and 2 nurses. Possibly a mom, if that’s important to you.
I think you should only become pregnant if you feel like the other person empowers and supports you. Of course, this is a perfect world. And most babies aren’t born into a perfect world.
I really think you need to weigh the doula negatives with the positives and decide what works best for your family.
Do I really need a doula?
I thought this video was really great. She seems like a wonderful doula. She’s honest about what she can do and how she supports. Hopefully, she gives you some ideas if you want to doula or not.
I hope, if you’re pregnant, you have a wonderful labor and delivery experience — grab my birth plan template to get centered on what you’d prefer on your delivery day:
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Hilary is a labor and delivery nurse who has worked in various medical fields over the past 18 years. Please don’t take any advice you read on this blog over something your doctor tells you. Trust your doctor, or find a new one.
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Kaitlyn Teeter says
Wow. This is such a terribly misguided and extremely biased article. Sadly, Posting misinformation like this (regardless of how much “experience” you may think you have) is such a disservice to mothers who deserve support and empowerment throughout their pregnancies and birthing experiences. THAT is the role of a doula – to provide emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual support to the birthing person AND THEIR PARTNER. By telling birthing people that a doula will “get in the way” is so irresponsible and untrue. A doula is there to support the entire family, including the partner. I had an incredible experience with each doula I worked with in childbirth, as did my partner. Our doulas educated us in ways I have NEVER been educated by an OB or a nurse, our doulas prepared us for childbirth far better than any medical professional did, our doulas instilled in us the confidence we needed to have the births we hoped for, and our doulas supported us in the most sacred and precious of ways. No nurse or doctor has the time or the training to support birthing people in the intimate ways that doulas do. Please, if you are an expectant mother reading this, please recognize the biased tone of this article and seek out more information. This article is one person’s opinion, and while it’s obvious I don’t agree with their opinion, I truly think it would be such a shame to not seek out more information after reading this. It is terribly misguided and one-sided.
Hilary Erickson says
My point remains that most doulas don’t end up being that helpful. I’m glad that you’re helpful. What a joy and blessing you are to your clients.